Mary McGoury Alexander

Mary Ellen McGoury Alexander

Wednesday, November 10th, 1943 - Sunday, August 23rd, 2020
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Mary Ellen McGoury Alexander died peacefully in Avow Hospice, Naples, Fl on August 23, 2020.

Ellen is survived by her husband of 48 years, Arnold Alexander; their four children, Molly Carleton (husband Todd Carleton, their daughters Arden, Piper, Charley, Edgecomb, Maine); Eric Alexander (wife Elizabeth, their daughters, Waverly, Laken, Marin, Arnold, Maryland); Megan Waltinger (husband Patrick, his children, Yannick, Helene, Edward, Boothbay, Maine); Justin Alexander (wife Stacey, their daughters Daphne, Penny, Stewartstown, Pennsylvania); and her sister, Nancy Waters McGoury Keber, Alexandria, Virginia.

Ellen was born on November 10, 1943 in Cumberland, Maryland to Mary Elizabeth Waters McGoury and Thomas Elias McGoury. She grew up in Odenton, Maryland and Severna Park, Maryland. Ellen graduated from Goucher College, Towson, Maryland, with a BA in French in 1965. She taught Advanced Placement French in Baltimore County Public High Schools for a number of years. She then was employed as a Social Worker for Anne Arundel County, Maryland until the birth of her first child in 1974, after which she focused on raising their children. She resumed employment in 1990 as the Office Manager in her husband's medical practice in Severna Park and later Arnold, Maryland. They retired to Naples, Florida in 1999.

In Naples, Ellen enjoyed playing tennis, often daily, for many years. She became an active member of Sandollars, a Women's Service Club after two years with Naples Newcomers. She served as Sandollars Vice President, Program Director, for several years and then as Club President for several more years. She then continued as an active member.

Ellen was known for her welcoming, whimsical and spunky nature. She was the ultimate hostess; never would a guest leave hungry, and all were welcome at her table. She would insist everyone needed to treat themselves to seconds and dessert (and sometimes stole a bite or two for herself). Her love of food, entertaining and hosting was instilled in her four children, all of whom can attribute their love of cooking and entertaining to her. It was part of her empathetic and sensitive disposition to listen more than she spoke, always wanting to hear about others’ feelings and experiences. She was so proud of her four children and the lives they’ve built, delighting in their visits and hearing of their experiences and adventures, no matter how far away they were. She loved to chat with her granddaughters and hear their stories. The girls cherished those moments, as well as watching movies together snuggled in her bed. She was also a defender, protector and guardian of animals, and could never say no to adopting stray cats.

Ellen had a fond appreciation for art, language, culture and music, and loved to attend operas, ballets, classical music concerts and museums. She could just as easily belt out The Battle Hymn of the Republic as she would break out some dance moves to the tunes of the Bee-Gees. She had a deep interest in exploring other cultures, cuisines and landscapes, traveling extensively throughout the Far East, South Pacific, South & Central America, Europe, Africa and the Caribbean, alongside her devoted husband who lovingly doted on her until the end.

A Private Memorial Service will be planned in Maryland in the Fall.

In lieu of flowers, Tributes may be made to Avow Georgeson House, 1095 Whippoorwill Lane, Naples, Florida, 34105 or donations can be made to: For the Love of Cats, PO Box 1777, Marco Island, FL 34145

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Jan and Jim Rich

Posted at 10:50am
Although we did not know Mary Ellen well, we learned a great deal about her love of cats from Arnold. Her compassion truly shines through with the rescue of so many stray cats over the years. Although cats cannot speak, Mary Ellen definitely heard their pleas for help and gave them a lifetime of love. Mary Ellen's rescued cats can be counted among the very lucky. We are so very grateful for Mary Ellen and Arnold's support of our organization, For the Love of Cats. Mary Ellen was a part of our family and embraced our mission to save the lives of cats and kittens in need. Mary Ellen, I am sure you were warmly greeted at the base of the Rainbow Bridge where your cats have been waiting for you to gather them up in your loving embrace. God Bless you.


Posted at 12:04pm
I served on the Sandollars Board when your Mom was President. The first Board meeting was at her house. She had all kinds of goodies to snack on and brought out Champagne to start us off. She realized after the fact that she had served the expensive champagne instead of the one usually served. We had a good laugh over that. Ellen was very creative and got some wonderful activities going that year.

Also the book club was very special to her. She was very insightful and added much to the discussions. After she got sick we were always hopeful that she felt good enough to come to book club. She will be missed. Love, Mary Weinerth

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